February Newsletter Article

February is a time of year many people think about relationships, especially with Valentine’s Day around the corner. New and expectant parents are no exception. But the many changes of pregnancy, and life with a newborn can put tremendous stress on a couple’s relationship. With a little care this time can also bring you closer, as you grow together as parents and as people. Maintaining a good relationship requires effort, but you are not alone, DayOne has some tools that can help.

DayOne recommends expectant and new parents read the helpful new book "Babyproofing Your Marriage" by Cockrell, O'Neill & Stone. This book presents both the new mom and new dad's points of view and makes concrete suggestions for improving communication when everyone is sleep deprived. Key points:

• Don’t keep score- no one wins the "I'm more tired than you" or the "My day was harder than yours" contest, so call it a draw.
• Make time for each other. The best thing you can do for your new baby is to take care of your relationship
• Speak up and ask for what you want- mind reading is a tough skill~
• Praise each other for being good parents. It means a lot to hear from your partner that you are doing a great job.

These other great books are also available in our member library and for purchase.



Get peer support, join a drop-in group! No one understands better the challenges a new parent faces, than other new parents, come and connect with friends and experts. These groups are facilitated by a DayOne professional staff member, all of whom are experienced health professionals and counselors. They are designed to foster community among local families, providing a forum to discuss parenting styles, ask questions, and share experiences in a casual, fun, and supportive environment.
When you were a new couple you participated in activities (dates) to solidify your relationship. Being a new family is another type of burgeoning relationship, and we recommend that you make an effort to schedule family bonding activities. DayOne hosts events the whole family will enjoy.. Whatever your chosen activity, make the time to get outside your routine four walls and focus on having fun together.